Speed kills. It is true on a race track, a freeway, or even on a football field. But perhaps the place where speed kills the most is in leadership.
Leadership is focused on influence. And influence is built on relationships. Relationships are destroyed by hurry. Thus the axiom . . . speed kills leadership.
As a young boy I remember the pace being a bit more sane. In fact, my Dad was (and still is) notorious for asking the same question anytime someone had to leave his presence. “What’s your hurry?” he would say. It was his way of communicating the importance of relationships. I never remember a time when he didn’t have time for someone else.
Today things are much different. We live in a world that is in a hurry. We don’t have time for relationships.
We are too busy driving on expressway’s, during rush hour, drinking expressos.
Our grocery stores have express lanes. We eat fast food. And our swimsuits are even called speedos.
We have a culture where people are now being diagnosed with “Hurry Sickness.”
Author John Ortberg writes, “The most serious sign of hurry sickness is a diminished capacity to love. Love and hurry are fundamentally incompatible. Love always takes time and time is one thing hurried people don’t have. Hurried people cannot love.”
How is your pace these days? Are you suffering from hurry sickness? Can you no longer find time to love?
Your relationships will answer those questions. If you are not sure ask your spouse or your kids. If you are feeling really brave you might even ask your coworkers or your friends.
If you don’t have time to love those who mean the most to you, something is wrong. Have the integrity to admit your problem and make the necessary changes.
Influence is impossible without relationship. So, “What’s Your Hurry?”
How is your pace these days?
repost from 7.7.10
Randy is an author, speaker, executive coach, and the CEO of InteGREAT Leadership. He invests his time encouraging leaders around the world.