Dealing With Different … 6 Ways to Embrace Change: Part 1

Yesterday I had the opportunity to take our change topic to another level by speaking at an annual retreat for a department whose company just restructured. The topic? You guessed it … Change.

Change Retreat

Can we all just agree … things are changing at blur speed?

Once we accept the fact that change is inevitable and make the decision to pursue growth (see yesterday’s post), we have two choices. We can either lean in or we can resist and be left behind.

I’m no different from anyone else. For me, change is hard. I like the status quo as much as the next guy … except I don’t. If the next guy is a leader he knows the status quo will ultimately suck the soul out of him and the people he leads.

[Tweet “Leaders are never comfortable being comfortable.”]

Through the years I have experienced thousands of changes. I am finally learning to look forward to most of them. While I still resist occasionally, I have identified six steps to serve as my filter whenever I find myself “dealing with different.” Over the next few days I will share them with you. I encourage you to incorporate them into your leadership. I’m confident they will help you lean in to change.

Step 1 … Choose Courage over Comfort – When I started my company to encourage and equip leaders, the transition took longer than it should have because fear was involved. I heard voices. Mostly my own … Randy, how can you walk away from your income when you have three kids in college and one a year away? What about your health insurance? What if no one will hire you to speak to their organization or team? What if no one is looking for a leadership coach? What if you fail?

Thankfully my wife believed in and encouraged me, and my four daughters called me a sissy. “Dad you keep telling everyone else to live in their sweet spot. You and Uncle Danno even wrote a book on it. It looks to us like you are a scaredy-cat, sissy-chicken.”

Ouch! A man can only take so much from his little women.

Ultimately I decided to go for it. I knew if I didn’t I would one day be an old man full of disappointment and regret. Admittedly, if I had failed I would have been disappointed that I didn’t have what it takes. But I knew I wouldn’t have any regret.

Without courage I had lost my edge as a leader. Edge is a big deal. Without it, you limit your influence. I had conversations with God about my angst. I kept finding places in Scripture where He commands His followers to be courageous. I couldn’t find a single admonishment toward comfort.

When I chose courage and made the change it was like the wind returned to my sails. The support was overwhelming. I discovered it was even bigger than my doubts had been. There was plenty of work with my name on it. Provision was beyond what I could have ever dreamed. And My daughters were my biggest fans. Imagine that!

I told my wife, “This is unbelievable.” She reminded me, as she often does, “No this is believable. This is what you have prayed and prepared for.”

So how about you? Are you comfortable? I hope not. Because if you are, you are most likely miserable. If today finds you in a place where you know you need to make a change, resist the resistance … choose courage over comfort.

Leadership Begins at Home,

Randy

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I’ll share a second step to help you embrace change in my next post.

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Jason

5 years ago

Randy,
Thanks for the post. Most often I lack courage to step out. This summer I was given the chance to give an IT presentation. I was nervous, not at speaking in front of the crowd but of speaking in front of my boss. In the end it went really well. The CEO of our company stated the presentation was good.
While I may not be an expert I can have confidence that God will be with me. I do hope to get a chance to speak again sometime…
Jason

Randy

5 years ago

Keep pushing yourself, Jason. Thanks!

Ray Green

5 years ago

WOW…Once again…Homerun Randy. It is like God is filling my cup through your experience. Considering major change…shssssshhh…(church plant) …smiles while doing the Chick Fil A experience….just the “refill” I needed this a.m. Looking forward to connecting in October.

Randy

5 years ago

Thanks for the encouragement Ray!

Woody

5 years ago

Randy . . . On Courage: From Jeanne Stevens is one of the lead pastors of Soul City Church in the dynamic West Loop neighborhood of Chicago, IL.
COURAGE WILL ALWAYS REQUIRE AN ELEMENT OF LEAVING. LEAVING IS JUST PLAIN HARD.
When My 3 year old knows I’m about to leave he will often squeeze as hard as he can around my neck to lovingly manipulate me into staying one more minute.
I know how he feels—because leaving comfort for courage makes me want to wrap my arms around every ounce of safety in my life—hoping if I hold on tight enough that I won’t have to taste the pain of the leaving what I know is inevitable.
Leaving comfort and safety looks and sounds alluring and attractive – butthe attraction fades quickly—in fact I have never felt so vulnerable, small, and needy…. words that are not known for their alluring appeal.
Moving from comfort to courage will…
cause you to question your decision.
It will cause you to look around for the safety bars, seatbelt, and any kind of security button.
Moving from comfort to courage will…
cause you to try to make something happen.
Scheme, make phone calls, send out hail mary e-mails—anything to distract from sitting in the fear.
Moving from comfort to courage will…
cause you to doubt your abilities.
You will look at everything that you have failed at in the past … failed relationships, failed financial decisions, failed leadership calls—and you will wonder will you repeat those patterns and are they indicators to go out and look for comfort again.
Moving from comfort to courage will…
cause you to doubt the author of the calling on your life.
Thinking that God is too busy to take care of your little fear
Moving from comfort to courage will…
cause you to be jealous of your neighbors.
—who seem to be perfectly content with their lives. You will wonder if you are some sort of crazy person that has a unhealthy propensity to live on the edge.
Moving from comfort to courage will…
cause you to look for the easy way out.
Moving from comfort to courage will…
cause you to pray like never before.
Wonder if you know any scripture to cast out the inner demon of doubt.
Moving from comfort to courage will…
cause you to white knuckle yourself around anything that feels secure and semi safe.
—even though you know earthly security and safety is a mirage and the place where Jesus is, is most where you want to be.
Moving from comfort to courage will…
cause you to feel weak in the knees.
—a good indicator that you should stop standing up and get ON your knees.
Moving from comfort to courage will…
cause others to question you.
Especially those that have found security to be a bedrock to build their lives on. You will be misunderstood, questioned, and perhaps even seen as foolish.
So today, God, I feel every one of these fears. I am terrified… straight up terrified. I am calling out to you to be a voice of truth and freedom. Tell me to settle down, to trust you and to release every one of these fears into your arms of faith. I know it is impossible to invite others into a life of obedience if I am unable to live it myself—so today I am re-upping my commitment to obey and be faithful.
Jeanne Stevens is one of the lead pastors of Soul City Church in the dynamic West Loop neighborhood of Chicago, IL.

Randy

5 years ago

Great stuff, Woody. Thanks!

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