I'm Still Trying to Decide if Different is Good

Different is good.”
When Bill Murray, a.k.a. Phil Connors, uttered those famous words in the movie Groundhog Day in 1993 my streak was at 37. It ended this past Monday at 1,268, and different felt … well, different.
One thousand, two hundred and sixty-eight consecutive Mondays with at least one kid living under our roof came to a screeching halt. The empty nest descended like the end of summer for a teacher. Good, but not good.
KG
On Monday, the house was quiet. Not just any old quiet; the kind of quiet that comes when Katherine Gravitt is not around. She has a way of creating noise in a place – good kind of noise. Noise that makes you feel valuable and necessary and glad to be a dad.
I keep reminding myself that we didn’t raise our four daughters to keep them, but it is still quiet. The silence tempts me to cling to what was. Twelve hundred and sixty-eight Mondays happened so fast. Emerson was right.
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But as the leader of my family, I recognize it is time to let go. No more horse in the driveway or late night chats. No more delegating trash-duty or the dishes. The stories are told, the homework is done, and the shoes – lots of shoes – have been bought. Yes, it is time to let go.
I’m still not sure Phil Connors was right. I don’t know if I believe different is good or not, but I do believe in Katherine. And for that reason, I’m okay with the streak being over.
Randy
Why do you think it is so hard for leaders to let go?
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Jim Burson

4 years ago

Great post Randy. I also can feel the “different” now that my youngest Betsy is out of the nest too. It’s a strange emptiness but know that thanks to your great leadership our sons and daughters are equipped for success in school and life.

Randy

4 years ago

Thanks, Jim. Good job!

Jim Toorell

4 years ago

Randy… So sweet. Now I have tears in my eyes surrounded by hundreds of people at a PAGE affair in Quitman, GA. A friend shared your thoughts and we discussed the Emerson quote. Thanks from another new Empty Nester.

Randy

4 years ago

Glad to hear I’m not the only one crying Jim. Hang in there!

Ray Green

4 years ago

As I watch my now 14yr old prince do his homework your words are sobering. He joined the Chess club….love chess and came home asking to play. Homework first…gotta be “disciplined” for the young prince however can’t wait until it’s done so we can play….that’s if he still wants to. Been 2 hrs on homework and may be tired. Time for me to count Monday’s as well and to enjoy the ones to come . Life is but a vapor…..seeking to enjoy the moment while it is still day.
Thanks Randy for sharing!

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