There is Still Nothing Good about Goodbye

Two years ago this week I wrote one of my most popular posts of all time, There is Nothing Good about Goodbye. In case you missed it, here is the link

For the record, nothing has changed. There is still nothing good about goodbye. It has happened again. Only this time it is heartbreak x 2.

On Friday we dropped off the oldest for another year at college. I’m thinking, “She’s a junior. Third times a charm. How hard can it be?” Stuff like that. And truthfully it was easier than it was the previous two years.

Then came Saturday. The day of the week I usually love so much. But this was no ordinary Saturday. This Saturday hurt – BAD. We dropped off Miss Next in Line at another University to begin her freshmen year.

This is no ordinary kid. Like her big sister, she is AMAZING. Intelligent, grounded, vibrant, talented, and ready.

As a parent, I am not sure you are ever ready? I can see now it was foolish to think it would get easier every time. It doesn’t!

So many conversations, games, vacations, ice cream cones, school plays, story times, kisses and hugs are all still here, even though she is not. The memory of each moment reminds me that loneliness is the price we pay for love.

While there is still nothing good about goodbye, there is a silver lining to my dark cloud . . . Fall Break.

This year it will be twice as sweet, because there will be two coming home.

i2i,

Randy

What would be your best piece of advice to someone in college? I will make sure I forward the comments 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

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David Parfitt

8 years ago

I am too close to be objective. I love her and her family and share in the hurt of loneliness! But I know they are ready and that they will change the world.

randygravitt

8 years ago

That is the plan DP. Still painful though bro. Praying for Will!

Ja

8 years ago

Be true to who you are and even though it is hard stand up for your beliefs and convictions. Remember this too shall pass and before you know it college will be finished.
One thing I learned is that what you learn in college may not be the same thing that is in life after college. Nancy once commented that she learned more in teaching during her student teaching and first year teaching than she did in her entire time in college. When she started to teach is when she really learned how to teach.
College may or may not have everything you need for life after college, “the real world.” However, there is still a lot of learning and growing in college to help prepare they way. You may not agree with the professor but in order to get the grade you need to give them what they want. There is a lesson in that for managing life in the workforce, or “real world.” BUT no matter what never compromise who you are.
Take my thoughts for what they are. I am sure if I thought about it longer I could come up with something else or say this in a better way. May God bless you in all you do.
May the peace of Christ be with you always…
Ja
(PS, anyone can email me at anytime if they just want to unload on someone.)

Ja

8 years ago

I guess in order to email me you have to have my email address. japonzio@sgly.org.

randygravitt

8 years ago

Thanks Jason!

Scott Humphrey

8 years ago

Probably the most important decisions I made in the early days of college were:
1. Who I would befriend (personal friends, clubs/ organizations)
2. How and where I would continue my Faith Walk. (on-campus and off)
3. How often and how soon I would go home.
You and your lovely wife should write a book on parenting. Thank you for making our world a better place by bringing up Godly young ladies. I will be in prayer for you both during this transition and for each of them during theirs as well.

randygravitt

8 years ago

Thanks Scott!

Coach Mac

8 years ago

iF ANYONE NEEDS ADVICE…IT IS ME…FROM SARAH. She will be fine. Praying for you today..P.S. That is my favorite picture ever!!

randygravitt

8 years ago

Thanks Coach!

scottbarber

8 years ago

So true.

randygravitt

8 years ago

thanks for commenting Scott! Enjoyed connecting with you today.

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